“We are a generation of men raised by women” Arguably the most powerful quote from the movie Fight Club. So what did Tyler Durden mean when he said that? Traditionally when a man and woman would get married, they would stay together. For life---not this Mickey Mouse I love you, I hate you, screw you we’re getting a divorce business that is tragically so common today. Ask any psychologist specializing in the study of children and they will undoubtedly inform you that for a child to have a healthy upbringing he/she requires to be raised in a household by BOTH parents who will shower him/her with love and compassion. Since the dawn of civilization the model for family structure has been patriarchal, and this kept the divorce rate in check.

Fast forward to today and what do we see?--A Matriarchal model where women believe that they should be leading the family because they were raised by a single mom who taught them that they have to fend for themselves. And the man in the relationship doesn’t know how to lead it because he is sitting around licking his own balls because he too was raised by a single mom and is tired of being “controlled” by women, and ultimately bails on the relationship—perpetuating the viscous cycle. You aren’t being controlled by anyone tough guy....you are just lazy. Women are not to blame, you are buddy. Is it any surprise that the divorce rate is at its current abominable level, of course not! In the 50’s and 60’s if your mother said to you “Wait until your father gets home” you’d have pissed your pants because that was the ultimate threat. Today, mothers have become more disciplinary than fathers, and this is all too frequently depicted in the media as well. Many movies and television shows depict a confident, capable mother and a totally incompetent oaf of a father—Just look at Peter Griffin from Family Guy or Homer Simpson from The Simpsons, and compare them to their respective counterparts Lois and Marge. Who really wears the pants here boys?

There was a time when men would hold meetings in the town square, men only. These meetings were designed to generate business, provide mentoring, and support. Society has evolved negatively where leadership roles are no longer assumed—the lines are blurred, granted there is some good in this but this article is focusing on the negative effects on men when they allow themselves to become emasculated. In early civilizations men were the hunters, travelling in packs, leading society in a dignified manner fulfilling the needs of society.  Get off the couch boys, become the men that you were supposed to be. Work with your woman to move your family forward.